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In the 1990, teen pregnancy was at an all time high and has been steadily declining since then. Experts believe that this decline is due not to teens practicing abstinence but that they are being more responsible about having sex and using some form of contraceptive. Many of the children born to teen mothers in the 1990’s are now teens themselves and have seen what their mothers went through and have realized that is not the life that they want for themselves. There are still some that either think it can’t happen to them or just don’t care at that moment what the consequences are of their actions.
We all want to believe that we have taught our children about life and how the choices we make effect us for the rest of our lives. We give them freedom as they grow up hoping that the lessons that we have been drumming into their heads since they were little will follow them and sometimes we are right. But sometimes we aren’t. Our sons and daughters are still becoming parents long before they are ready. Long before we are ready.
Teen pregnancy has become more acceptable than it was in the past but it is still not a badge of honor that they want to wear proudly. When some teen girls find out that they are pregnant, after they get past the denial stage, they are sure that their parents won’t understand and try to hide their pregnancy. Obviously this will only work for so long. Parents will eventually notice the baggy clothes and hormonal mood swings and put 2 and 2 together and this is when the real decisions need to be made.
As parents we will run the gamut of emotions. Everything from anger at the situation to confusion at how this could happen to our child and finally acceptance of what has happened and the realization that what is done can’t be undone. We can’t let our first gut reactions define how we are going to handle the situation. It may be best to hold your negative comments until you can express them in a way that is more productive and less destructive. It will do us no good to beat our children up about something that can not be changed. Remember that they probably already feel bad enough about it. Despite our disappointment in them they are still our children and they need our help. We have to help them see that although everything might seem hopeless at that moment, all is not lost and their life does not have to be over. The way we choose to handle the situation will guide our teens on their path of dealing with their pregnancy.
The choices of how to handle pregnancy are many. Choosing to keep the child and raise him or her themselves will cause them to lose whatever is left of their childhood and force them to grow up much sooner than they should. Other alternatives such as adoption are good options. Many over the years have decided to give their child up for adoption and gone on to live their regular lives. The draw back to this is that they will always know that there is a child out there that is theirs and always wonder where they are and if they have had a good life.
None of the options is wonderful but they are the one’s available to us. They all have their pros and cons. Deciding on what is best for your family and your teen is a difficult task but it is one that you will have to do. It isn’t going to go away on its own. So choose carefully and remember that what ever decision you make now will be with them for the rest of their life.

In trying times things can be hard to deal with and tempers become short. We find ourselves fighting with the people more often and allowing ourselves to be upset more easily than normal. It is more important than ever, when you are dealing with difficult situations, that you keep a clear head and don’t let yourself be drawn in to the drama that is unfolding around you.
When you see that a situation is getting out of control and everyone around you is screaming and hollering keeping your wits about you will help you regain the control that is necessary to resolve the problem. When everyone else is yelling louder than the person next to them just to make sure that their point is being heard no one is getting anywhere because no one is listening to what is being said. There may be a solution in all of that noise but no one would know it. Sometimes it is best to speak in a normal tone when expressing your opinions. Believe it or not the softest voice is often the one that is heard best because it is in such stark contrast to all the others. The one who seems to be more rational will be heard better and listened to because they are in more control than the rest.
Even when you are distressed by what is going on you can sit back and suppress the urge to yell like everyone else and listen to what is being said. When you do this you may realize that what you are arguing about is of little or no consequence to begin with and not worth fighting about. Many arguments, especially in relationships, become larger than they have to be because what started out to be a little disagreement about who was supposed to empty the dishwasher has exploded into a diatribe about how one person always has to do everything and the other is lazy. Although this may be a bone of contention in your relationship, getting so angry about it that you can not hear the other persons side of the story isn’t going to fix the situation. When you are both done screaming at each other, the dishwasher still needs to be emptied. Yelling does nothing but put the person being yelled at on the defensive and does not really accomplish what you are trying to do. Try to keep the discussion as a conversation. If the other party starts to yell just remind them that you are just trying to figure this all out and that you aren’t yelling. Sometimes that is the best way to defuse a situation that is about to go bad quickly and put it back in its proper perspective.
Just remember, no matter how difficult the situation is to deal with, usually cooler heads will prevail in the end.

That little four letter word can sometimes be the most difficult to say. Love is something very intimate and we are always scared that, once given, will not be returned. Taking the chance and telling someone that you love them is one of the hardest things you will ever do, but once you have said it and know that your feelings are mutual, you want to say it all the time. The word doesn’t get stuck in your throat any more but comes tripping off your tongue as easily as saying your own name. And what a wonderful feeling it is to not only love someone but also to be loved in return. This is what we live for.
It seems as if once we manage to get that one little word out we say it continually. Sometimes we say it so much and with little thought that it becomes almost meaningless. Everyone wants to hear it but when you say it so much and with little thought that it becomes almost meaningless. Everyone wants to hear it but when you say it so often and in every situation its true meaning and importance can get lost. We say we love people everyday. We even say it to our animals. Its meaning becomes diluted by its over-use for inconsequential things.
Just saying I love you isn’t always enough because if we’ve heard it once we have heard it a million times. Because of this sometimes we have to back our words with deeds and actions. We don’t always remember to show the people we love the depth of our feelings for them. We believe that if we say it enough they should already know how we feel. This is not always the case especially if we haven’t done anything to prove it. Showing our love for someone can be as simple as doing the dishes when we haven’t been asked to or something as complex and costly as planning a long needed romantic vacation. Whether it is a large or small gesture it can be exactly what is needed to show them what they mean to us.
When we decide to give our love to someone and put those four little letters together to tell them what we feel we need to remember to use the word every day with meaning. Make sure that they know that the love you feel for them is deeper than the love you have for the dog. Add deeper meaning to it by showing it too. Unexpected hugs and kisses will never be turned away.

jai shree ganesh, maa mahalakshmi maa ki jai

this is my first post and I dedicate it to my parents, jai shree ganesh, maa mahalakshmi maa, my family, shree dhaanaii maa, shree jyotibaa baba, saibaba, my gurus and all saints.

god bless you all.