Jealousy Can Be Disastrous to a Relationship
The green-eyed monster of jealousy can rear its ugly head in any relationship. In some instances it can be endearing but it is when it is taken to extremes when it becomes a problem.
Women need to be wanted. All too often as a relationship goes on and becomes comfortable and it can also become stagnant. Couples begin to take each other for granted and forget to say the things that each needs to hear to make them feel special. The I love you’s don’t come as often as they used to and they forget all of the reasons that they became a couple in the first place. The complacency of everyday life sometimes brings us to a point where we just do everything out of rote and without thought. It is when a relationship has reached this point that we begin to look back at the way things were in the beginning and long for those feelings again. We want to be those people again. We miss the days when a simple touch on the hand made our skin tingle.
Women begin to dress sexy again and draw attention from others. It isn’t because they want other men to pay attention to them, it is because they want the man they already have to look at them the way they used to. This can bring the desired effect or it could back fire. Although showing their men that they are still sexy enough to draw the attention of others can remind them of what they already have and spark those old feelings again, they could be sparking a fire that they can’t put out, jealousy.
Men can become very territorial when they believe that another male is invading their space. This may be a side of your husband or boyfriend that you have never seen before. What seemed like an innocent act on your part may make them believe that you are looking to get out of the relationship instead of bringing it back to the way it was. You may inadvertently cause the man you care about to go into a defensive mode and start doing things that they ordinarily wouldn’t. Things like fighting with other men just for talking to you or they may even go so far as to start following you when you go out without them. This is when it has gone too far and needs to be stopped. Most of the time an honest discussion about what is going on can stop the behavior. Letting the man in your life know why you decided to make the changes you did can show them how much you care and want your relationship to work. If a simple conversation doesn’t work you may just find that your relationship is one that should be ended before it gets any further. The jealous side of them that you didn’t even know about could end up being a dangerous situation that you should avoid all together.
Jealousy is an emotion, which if controlled, can help refresh a relationship but if allowed to go unchecked can lead to not only the end of the relationship but also to unforeseen disastrous consequences that no one want. Be careful when playing with fire. You never know if you are starting a camp fire or a forest fire.